Do you know someone who exudes confidence? With her head held high and perfect posture, her entire presence enters the room before she does. Her whole face smiles as she speaks, and her eyes twinkle. Have you sometimes wished to have that same countenance of confidence? For mi, I feared that any self-assurance I showed would be perceived as boastful or arrogant and that others would think I thought I was better than everyone else.
I didn’t realize that being confident is different than being conceited. Being confident doesn’t mean acting like I know everything and having an inflated ego; it means trusting myself, my knowledge, education, skillset, and gifts. Imagine if you had a surgeon who wasn’t sure they could perform a procedure you needed. I don’t know about you, but I want someone so confident they have no doubt they can get the job done.
To be confident means to be certain, to believe in yourself and your ability. It is about having a solid conviction in whatever it is you’re doing. Confidence is something that you are. When you act in ways that demonstrate confidence, your body language, tone, and word choice solidify that certainty for others. It is an inner peace and acceptance of who you are, and it is something that external opinions or judgments cannot taint.
We should be confident in who we are and our capabilities. It is not about bragging about your accomplishments or flaunting how special you are compared to others. It is unequivocally knowing who you are and what you are capable of and taking control of your life.
Girl, it’s time to shine, be confident, stand tall, hold your head high, and let your eyes smile back at the world. You were meant to shine bright and make an impact on the world. So, when you get up to give a speech, walk in a room, or go for a job interview, the most vital thing you can do is put on the countenance cloak of confidence and own it. Don’t let self-doubt creep in. Own it!
© c. michelle bryant griffin
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